We need a total reset. How do we come out of our self-centeredness and acculturation in order to have a personal and collective reset? We who are the edge dwellers who dance around on the edges of time hoping to usher in the new age that is coming whether we take the ride or note: this is an invitation that is coming in for us all to do what is needed to get what's needed. Will we allow for the revolutionary shifts that actually want to happen? How do we find our way to yes? 

HOW TO SUPPORT SOMEONE IN PAIN

In this Wisdom Wednesday, we are addressing something fundamental to life itself – how to support someone who is in pain. Recorded from my “hall of mirrors” we address the reflections we give to those who are close to us and who are in pain, whether it’s mental, emotional, physical or even spiritual pain.  When someone, especially someone we love, is in pain, our first thought is to try to help them get away from it.  We may try to fix it, to help them get distance from it or we will simply sympathize with them and take it on ourselves.

But none of this is truly supportive, and the person in pain can feel more frightened and alone than ever.  In order to really support someone – or to be supported ourselves if we are in pain – we have to come out of conflict with the pain itself.  Pain is not necessarily bad, or something that we need to “fix.”

​Pain is the body, or the mind warning us that something is out of alignment.  It is signaling a healing process that is either underway or that needs to happen.  To support someone in pain means to not make the pain wrong, but to help them take the ride with it.  Even as anger or deep fear or hopelessness might arise, support means witnessing more than it means fixing.  Helping is about reminding the person that you have their back in the process but that it is a process that needs to be lived and engaged with.

THE GREAT UNDOING. Do you ever feel like you’re coming undone? You start becoming aware of the thousands of pieces that have to work together to make you work. And then suddenly they all feel like they’re at war with each other. The results can be devastating, mentally, physically and spiritually, depending on where the misalignments are. We live in a time of undoing, with many of the institutions, belief systems and norms of our society falling apart, and even coming into conflict with each other. Times of change are perilous but necessary.

This undoing, whether it’s personal or societal, needs to happen. As painful as it is, the process of undoing releases all that is not in service to our highest needs. Coming out the other side of a great undoing requires opening to change. Personally, the undoing asks us to let go of everything we think we know, to come to a place of openness and healing.

As a society, we are being asked to let go of so many of our old ways of being and thinking so we can come to a whole new way of life with each other.

​Please join me today to explore the ways we can allow this Great Undoing to be a healing process.